Contact Me

Maintenance Services 4 You

Fax : 086 671 6024

Phone  : 072 476 5465

Postal : P O Box 1101, Menlyn Central 0077

Email : marie.kapp@iafrica.com

More information about myself:

I am not a lawyer! But was a single parent with two children born out of wedlock.  On the bright side my children did not have to share a dad.  (These are  facts and I can not disguise or hide it)
I made a three year in depth study regarding child support.  Called small groups, enquired on different scenarios until we had the suitable solution. I have written a practical, step-by-step manual regarding child support.  Legal advice are expensive and I could not found any self-help book regarding maintenance. My book was done, and I could not change one sentence, but it felt that I could not proceed.

The thoughts emotional healing came to my mind.
- I learned that I have to forgive the fathers of the children and set them free, but also forgive myself (This was the most difficult part).
- I learnt that I had to deal with bitterness, un-forgivess and pride.
Why do I share this with you, in my counselling I have  experience there are mothers and fathers out there that share these T-Shirts.  Get help from your local church and get rid of these shirts, you will be able to focus on rand and sent, get out of your victim role and be a manager of your maintenance file

I fund my own website and answer desperate mails daily until late at night.
- Yes I do have a real job, therefore I am most of the time only available after 16:00.

I do motivational talks to groups and workshops on Saturday’s “Child Support Pitfalls” for churches, schools and political woman’s organisations.  If you can identify the need, you have a hall, do not hesitate to call me. It is my passion to assist single parents.

I can only share with you my practical experience and book knowledge.   You will also find me on the website Fathers for Justice, www.f4j.co.za.  I am not for the mother or for the father, but my best interest is for the child.  If you have access rights problems, email me I have the correct Police guide procedure to mail to you.  Not all fathers change into drunks the day they get divorce.

Did you know the best place to arrest someone is at the airport? Due to the fact that you have a set date and time.

From now on you have two files:
- Income and expenditure file  Take note there is different areas Accommodation, School, make sure you have all the proof to your calculations in this file
- Maintenance File This is an exact copy of your maintenance file.  If you are divorced, your court order will be your first document.
– Certified copies of your ID, children’s birth certificates.
– Photo’s of the other parent (the bail of sheriff do not know what they look like)
Always request for an copy to be put in your file, it eliminates the factor of lost documentation.  If you have a compliant make sure you have the court name, address and contact person who helped or misguide you before to email me.

Through this guide, the author wants to give you, the reader, guidance and encouragement to deal with your maintenance matters with confidence henceforth.  With the necessary knowledge and self-confidence, you are in control of your life.  The leader will never be encouraged to go through a divorce process, as is never the intention of God.

The author’s incentive is her own experience of hours spent in Court corridors and many single parents who sat ‘till late evening around her kitchen table crying about their critical financial position.  Her experience is that, unfortunately, the parent waits until the financial situation becomes critical before taking action against the defendant.  It is only when the parent becomes very distressed that they desperately start with preparation – usually with the sheriff knocking at the door.  Then there is no time left for thorough preparations.  The word “maintenance” makes many people go weak at the knees.  The reason is that there are so many important factors and no definite guidelines to deal with each case successfully and obtain an order.  The author thus wants to give some guidelines that are affordable through a lot of research as well as inventiveness; a drawn-out and nerve-racking process can be cut short.

The most important aspect of maintenance cases is that the claimant, if possible, must prove the income of the defendant even before the court procedure commences.  That is why it is important to do as much research as possible beforehand.  Do not let the system overwhelm you.  It is indeed a frustrating experience to apply for maintenance, and it means you have to appear in court repeatedly.  The maintenance courts are part of the criminal system and you share the Court corridors with everybody.  Be prepared for all of this.  It is obviously not pleasant to appear in court, possibly also not to have to see the other parent, and certainly not to motivate to others how you manage you are household.  Just remember you are asking what your child’s is rightfully.  It is all worth it.  You actually owe this effort to your child.  Be realistic about the duration before your application is processed.  The courts are over-burdened and maintenance cases are only dealt with on certain days.  Focus on rands and cents, and hopefully emotional arguments can be avoided.  Black on white, with proof, will pull you through.

I also want to encourage you to join your local church should you need emotional healing.  By working through your emotions with a fellow believer or in co-operation with your church-leader, you will have the opportunity to speak freely and forgive where necessary.  During my research period, I joined hands with single parents to become completely again.

Regards

Marie